Like a potter my dad molded my young mind when he kneaded my basic values into my make up as a person. With his strong hands he folded into my clay body my integrity, honesty and gratitude. My dad was the one who taught me to never give up, and to complete everything I started with all the energy and power within me. He opened my mind irreversibly and made me question everything to the point of total irritation to all the people close to me. I can blame him for my obstinacy and cynicism, but I can also thank him for my unstoppable perseverance and strength. Like a good potter he hardened me up in a kiln of fatherly fire, and never let me get away with mediocrity. He glazed me with colour and brought out the poet and artist I sometimes can be.
My fondest memories of my father are the bedtime stories he used to tell of his hunting and wild life warden days, and all the beautiful books he read to us. He taught my brother and I, and our extended family, all about the African veld and animals. He was a true romantic and I admired the way he loved, adored and spoiled my mother.
He was an example of excellent corporate work ethics and calm worldly wisdom. I always knew I could rely on him for advice and support in all financial, spiritual and career decisions – he was always there for me. Always.
I am so lucky that this wonderful man was a part of my life for 50 years. I am sad that I won’t be able to do the Albany to Sydney race as part of my journey around the world, but will go back ‘home’ to celebrate his illustrious life with my family before I join again to do the Sydney to Hobart yacht race, and continue and complete what I have started.
I dedicate the race to my father and will smile every time I tenaciously carry on when I feel like quitting if things are tough, because that is how he proudly sculpted me.
I’ll always walk in his footsteps, be guided by his words, love as he loved, live a full life, and be protected by his ever present spirit.
Thanks Dad!
Lief vir jou Pappa. Van jou Doggie

In the words of my father’s favourite song popularized by Frank Sinatra and written by Paul Anka:
I've lived a life that's full
I traveled each and ev'ry highway
And more, much more than this, I did it my way
Regrets, I've had a few
But then again, too few to mention
I did what I had to do , I saw it through without exemption
I planned each charted course, each careful step along the highway
And more, much more than this, I did it my way
I've loved, I've laughed and cried
I've had my fill, my share of losing
And now, as tears subside, I find it all so amusing
To think I did all that
And may I say, not in a shy way,
"Oh, no, oh, no, not me, I did it my way"
For what is a man, what has he got?
If not himself, then he has naught
The right to say the things he feels and not the words of one who kneels
The record shows I took the blows and did it my way!
Wat 'n pragtibe dedikasie.. Dink aan jou xxx
ReplyDeleteHi Ursula, so sorry to hear of the passing of your dad. He sounded like a beautiful man. Much love to you here from Aus xxx Hayley
ReplyDeleteMy hart is seer, hy was 'n wonderlike mens en ons kon so maklik en lekker gesels. Soos Totius se "Die wereld is ons woning nie". Baie sterkte ek dink aan jou my maatjie. Stuur liefde en sterkte vir jou ma.
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ReplyDeleteDie Wêreld is Ons Woning Nie.
Die wêreld is ons woning nie.
Dit merk ek aan die son wat wyk,
en 'k merk dit aan die reier wat
mistroostig na die son sit kyk
op een been, in die biesievlei.
En is die laaste strale weg,
dan rys 'n koue op uit die vlei.
'n Koue gril deurhuiwer my;
en 'k sien dit dan in alle ding
wat in die skemer my omring:
die wêreld is ons woning nie.
Die wêreld is ons woning nie.
Dit sien ek as die bloedrooi maan
van agter veldstof opgegaan,
nog net die kerk se dak bestryk,
vanwaar 'n uil, misterie-stom,
sit na die maan se skyf en kyk.
En nou dit stil word op die straat,
dink ek hoedat die middag laat
'n lykstoet daar het uitgekom
waar nou die maan en uil ontmoet.
En 'k merk dit dan aan alle ding
wat in die aandstond my omring:
die wêreld is ons woning nie.
Die wêreld is ons woning nie.
Dit voel ek as die wind ontwaak,
as die eikebome knars en kraak;
dit hoor ek in die fladdering
van voëltjies wat hul vlerke slaan
teen die verwarde boomtakke aan.
En as ek nader kom, dan vind
ek by die maan se wisselstraal
'n nes vol kleintjies deur die wind
omlaaggeslinger, dood, verplet.
Ek voel dit dan aan alle ding
wat in die nagstond my omring:
die wêreld is ons woning nie.
TOTIUS.
(Uit ‘Passieblomme’.)
Ursula,
ReplyDeleteI unfortunately never had the opportunity to know your dad, but I know you and hence conclude that he must have been a "Master Potter".
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ReplyDeleteDis kleine dingetjies wat meeste vreugde bring:
ReplyDeletevan kindertjies wat speel, dié bly gelag;
‘n lewerik wat in wolke sing;
die sag’ bedruis van druppels in die nag.
Swart doringbome teen die Westegloed;
die groen van wuiwend’ gras wat hoog die bult omsoom;
lang lelies in die gras, nes druppels bloed;
die dof’ gemurmel van ‘n waterstroom.
‘n Sware werk goed afgedaan;
‘n wandeling met ‘n vriend wat ons bemin;
die eerste groen langs muur en laan;
die gloed van uit ‘n liefdevolle huisgesin;
die blydskap, uitgestort en vry,
loop on op eensaam’ wege raak.
Dit kos alleen die soek om te verkry:
die dinge wat die Lewe ‘n vreugde maak.
Outeur? Jy?! Dis wonderlik!
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